In one month from today, I will be standing in front of my closest family and friends, and promise my life to the most incredible guy on the planet. This thought is
terrifying so exciting. I’ll be honest- I’m ready for the planning-for-my-wedding phase of my life to be over, and just move on already! An 18 month engagement is so long. Almost half of the time we’ve been together as a couple, we have been engaged! And even still, I’m just getting used to hearing the word “fiance” come out of my mouth. Forget saying “husband” any time soon!
And if serendipitous timing couldn’t be better, I finally was able to rent The Happiness Project from the library on my kindle (I read too much to realistically pay for every book!), and just finished up the chapter on marriage. If you don’t know about the Happiness Project, it’s Gretchen Rubin’s personal chronicle of a year long journey to make her every day life happier. Every month, she gave herself a new set of resolutions focused on one aspect of her life to try and improve her overall happiness and well-being. Her resolutions to improve her marriage are below:
- Quit nagging
- Don’t expect praise or appreciation
- Fight right
- No dumping
- Give proofs of love
Definitely some tips in that list that I can apply to my own life. Sometimes I can hear myself even before my mouth opens and I know how annoying I am, but still I can’t stop myself from nagging or complaining about something. And I definitely want to give more proofs of love. I may say “I love you” more than he does, but MJ is the king of sweet and thoughtful every day gifts. I’m not talking about anything extravagant, but I know that when he goes shopping, he usually comes home with something special for me. Flowers, a piece of cake, an avocado. (Yes, a good avocado is a great gift!)
I think I know better than to expect that our lives will be drastically different after we are married, but I would like to think that we can always be improving on our partnership. The rest of our lives, after all, is hopefully a very long time together!
What do you think of these resolutions? Is there anything you would add to this list? I’d love to hear your thoughts!